This two parakeets are adorable! Lol
This two parakeets are adorable! Lol
When is the justice system going to start speaking up for survivors? !?!
Yes, there are a lot of great rape cases with strong evidence where the victim is too afraid / traumatized or any other of a million other reasons why they don’t want to persue a criminal case. BUT. ..what about the MAJORITY of rape victims, which the District attorney office constantly refuses to press charges for, despite the victim’s dire want for justice? Those (I am am one of them )…those victims /survivors are unfortunately the majority of society.
When are the district attorney offices going to stand against the beliefs of rape culture and society, and attempt to gain justice for rape victims?
How are rape laws supposed to change if DA’S don’t persue the “tough cases”. The more “tough cases” they try, eventually, the more they will win. This will perpetuate more case law regarding rape, thus leading to more and more “tough case ” convictions (eventually. ..obviously it is going to be a struggle and a slow process, but it MUST start somewhere )
The way it stands currently, no one is looking out for victims. And victim advocates have EXTREMELY limated resources, connections, and are honestly not taken seriously. In my personal opinion, agencies only deal with them to “look like they are concerned ” when in reality, they are not.
It is high time for a change in the justice systems and in the sexual assault units. …when….when are rape victims going to be taken seriously?
Given the fact that the Department of Children and Family Services is supposed to work to protect children and families against domestic violence and abuse, I find it extremely concerning that despite multiple attempts to inform them that a current employee, who has not even been employed 6 months yet, has received a 2 year extension on a 209A restraining order, I have not received any phone calls back concerning this issue.
For those who are unaware, there are very few reasons that one of these restraining orders can be granted in Massachusetts, those consist of;
”Abuse”, the occurrence of one or more of the following acts between family or household members:
(a) attempting to cause or causing physical harm;
(b) placing another in fear of imminent serious physical harm;
(c) causing another to engage involuntarily in sexual relations by force, threat or duress.
State employees are subject to CORI checks. DCF employees are subject to up to and including a stage two, which includes any and all civil issues (this includes restraining orders ).
I don’tknow the nature of his position, but if it includes a CORI check to that extent, the DCF needs to take this issue seriously. He (to my probable knowledge ) has access to the personal information if the vulnerable population, because to my knowledge, his position concerns IT (but I could be misinformed) either way, the DCF needs to invistigate this matter. If I had to deal with the DCF, I mostly certainly would not feel comfortable with this man having (or potentially having ) access to my personal information.
I have been doing a lot of thinking. About what I have been going through. I am completely and utterly disgusted with the justice systems in Massachusetts, and then Suffolk County DA Office.
The ADA actually asked me if I really thought that he didn’t make a mistake because “people sometimes change their minds “. I was so incredibly infuriated, but I didn’t give him a piece of my mind like I would normally do in a situation like that. I was just too shocked, because I could see in his eyes that he was serious.
NO! I have never EVER had feelings or curiosities about the rapist in a sexual way. …EVER!! That is why when earlier in the night, I told him that I would NEVER SLEEP WITH HIM. I never change my mind. I have never felt that way towards him, and I can’t sleep with someone if I am not into them. …I have never been able to do that.
I just really can’t believe that there was never an attempt to get a statement from him. Especially because he has changed his story under oath on record. An initial statement from when I initially made the rep could have really helped my case. In my opinion, this is gross neglect regarding rape on the hands of the Commonwealth of Massachusetts .
And, if you read my blog, to top it off, he works for the Department of children and families. …disgusting, people are not safe.
He needs to be changed for this. He needs to be held responsible .
The justice system the majority of rape victims every day. There is almost no justice for victims of rape.
I was raped in February by my former roommate. He started a new job at the Department of Children and Families two days after he raped me. So yes…he clearly passed the background check.
My restraining order has recently been extended for two years (the judge hardly batted an eye while granting it) and amended the order to keep the rapist away from my place of employment.
I told the detective that the rapist worked for DCF. Additionally, I recently had a meeting with the DA’s office. I spoke with an ADA about a lot of things. About how my rapist was never questioned or asked to give a statement when I filed a police report. I also told the ADA thatthe rapist works for DCF. The ADA did not appear concerned at all. This is appalling and frightening to me. This rapist, this dispicable excuse for a person works for an agency who deals with a vulnerable population. He either has direct access to the vulnerable population, or access to their personal information. They are NOT SAFE with him being an emphasis of DCF. Apparently, the Suffolk County Justice System doesn’t seem to care.
I am feeling the end of my breaking point! The DA won’t charge my rapist, he wasn’t even questioned, nor was there even an an attempt made to get a statement from him.
During the restraining order extention hearings (two of them ) his story changed, mine has never changed .
I am not willing to give up yet, but I don’t know how much more that I can take. I have no doubt in my mind that he will rape again (he probably has raped before ). I don’t want to loose hope, but he has already taken so much away from me, I just don’t know know how much more of this I can bare.
I was raped by my former roommate on February 14th 2016. I filed a police report. Within less than 48 hours I was told that the DA would not be moving forward with the case.
In fact, I met with the DA this past Tuesday, and it was confirmed that there was not even an attempt made to get a statement from my rapist.
Two weeks ago, a judge granted a two year restraining order extention against my rapist because (judges words) “My story was credible”. In fact, on record and under oath, the story of my rapist changed”.
I am just outraged. I have no doubt in my mind that this dirt bag will do this again to someone. And…..and, he works for the Department of children and families in Massachusetts! His first day was 2 day’s after he raped me, so he passed the background check. When I told this to the DA, he was not concerned.
I refuse to give up, because I KNOW that this rapist knew EXACTLY what he was doing, and I have NO doubt in my mind that he will do it again. IF I had even the slightest bit of doubt, even just a hair…I would drop it. But I don’t.
He didn’t accept no for an answer, so why should I. I’m going to do everything in my power to make sure that he can’t do this to anyone else EVER AGAIN!
Last night I was talking with a “friend” who I had previously confided about being raped. We were talking because I was upset, I am having such a hard time moving on. My life is a mess, I am not myself, and I feel ruined.
As we were talking she said, “How do you even know for sure that you were raped? How do you know that is the whole story? What he did was wrong, but how do you know for sure that it was rape? You said yourself that you were so drunk, and you woke up to him on top of you and in you. How do you know that you were’t black out? I don’t think if a person is drunk that it really can be rape”
Are you FUCKING ME?!?!?! I told her that regardless, even though I completely disagree with her, I told him no that night, that “I was never going to sleep with him” What he did WAS rape. I did not give consent, in fact I already told him no earlier, and I was not in a position to give consent. She said that I was drunk, and that I should have never gotten in the bed with him in the fist place….I was completely shocked to be hearing this…from her. He was in my bed, in my room. I didn’t know why, I as shitfaced, tired, and figured that since I knew I made it clear that I would never have sex, that I had nothing to worry about. I was wearing clothes…it isn’t like I went to bed naked!! I had no idea that he would do that to me. And I couldn’t believe what she was saying. We argued about this for an hour, and it just made me sick. She really thinks that if a person is drunk, they cannot be raped.
I have been a mess all day. I already feel like shit, and cannot cope with what happened, then I hear this from a supposed “friend” who was “trying to help”. What she is doing is victim blaming, making excuses for rapists, and saying that it is ok to rape drunk people.
I was raped, I have not doubt about it. There is no other explanation, no excuse. It doesn’t matter if I was drunk, he raped me, period, end of story. If this is what a “friend” thinks of certain types of rape situations, then what does the majority of society think. This is a prime example of rape culture….and it needs to end!
Being raped is on of the worst experiences that a person can live through. The aftermath of rape is equally as terrible. As if being raped isn’t bad enough, the trauma from that event, the memories, the scars….they last forever.
It is bad enough that I am TERRIFIED to leave my house, or work once I arrive there safely. This is my everyday reality.
My roommate left a few days ago, and he won’t be back till next week. I am petrified. To the point where I sleep with a kitchen knife under my pillow.
It is completely unfair. My rapist lives his live unaccountable for his actions, untouched, unharmed, hell, I would not even be surprised if he jerks off to that morning and what he did to me. And I, am cursed to continue to live with flashbacks, nightmares, fear, visions, the inability to concentrate, sleep and eat.
I live every day of my life in fear, to the point where on most day’s, at least once, I become so overwhelmed with fear that I start to shake uncontrollably, and most day’s this happens more than once.
Rape has ruined my life…
Friday 14 February 2014 07.42 EST
What do we mean when we say “rape culture”? You may have heard the term used recently. It describes a culture in which rape and sexual assault are common (in the UK over 85,000 women are raped and 400,000 sexually assaulted every single year). It describes a culture in which dominant social norms belittle, dismiss, joke about or even seem to condone rape and sexual assault. It describes a culture in which the normalisation of rape and sexual assault are so great that often victims are blamed, either implicitly or explicitly, when these crimes are committed against them. A culture in which other factors such as media objectification make it easier to see women as dehumanised objects for male sexual purposes alone.
It’s part of rape culture when “I’m feeling rapey” T-shirts are put up for sale on eBay. Or when a member of a University sports team goes out in a “casual rape” shirt, or another team plays a game called: “It’s not rape if …”
It’s part of rape culture when a child victim of sexual abuse is accused of being complicit and somehow “egging” on her abuser in the court case against him. It’s rape culture that makes it so hard for male victims to speak out too, because hand-in-hand with the dismissal of rape as a hilarious joke goes the stigmatisation of male rape victims as effeminate, impotent or non-existent.
Sometimes it’s hard to recognise or understand rape culture without hearing real-life examples of how it impacts on everyday lives, starting from an incredibly young age:
@EverydaySexism Overheard young boy on bus saying – “I’ll rape your mum so bad she can’t walk”. Sickening!
12:34 PM – 11 Feb 2014
@EverydaySexism Can’t go out for walks around my house bc routinely harassed, called names, and told that I need to be raped. Lovely stuff.
@EverydaySexism My coworker was walking me to my car after my closing shift, I thanked him and he laughed & said he could rape me right now.
Genuine chat up scene unfolding on this train: Boy: do you have a rape alarm?
I despair for humanity. @EverydaySexism
@EverydaySexism At a party with bf, met his friend & pregnant gf. Friend follows me into toilets & says he’s going to rape me bcs I want it.
@EverydaySexism I was raped by a coworker. I told my boss about it; she said it wasn’t rape and implied I actually wanted it
— elin who (@therosetylah)F
@EverydaySexism two girls in my class were talking about how you’d only have yourself to blame for getting raped if you wore a short skirt
— Catherine (@Scathach_81)February 2, 2014
— Wolf Mommy (@Wolf_Mommy)July 30, 2013
When a man told me breastfeeding my baby in public is going to get me raped.@EverydaySexism
— The Family Buisness (@Sarah_Watsons)June 16, 2013
@EverydaySexism ever since I was little my mum told me how to not get raped but I have never heard her once tell my 2 brothers not to rape.
— Katie McArthur (@grrumblecakes)March 6, 2013
And FURIOUS that there are people alive who think threatening to rape me on my way to work is a funny joke #everydaysexism
@EverydaySexism upon hearing I was 19 and a virgin, my coworker suggested I “needed to get raped.”
— Ellen Steenkamp (@EllenSteenkamp)April 18, 2013
@EverydaySexism At age 11 classmate on schooltrip stated that ‘no-one would rape me anyway cuz I’m too ugly’. Others only laughed at that
— honey-senpai (@kawaiifriend)June 15, 2013
@EverydaySexism bought an open back t shirt for a concert a month ago; my father told me the shirt screamed “rape me”
— Amanda Tall (@AmandaLDTall)June 15, 2013
On a nearly empty metro 4 men shouted they wanted to rape me. Scary but we’re not meant to make a fuss so didn’t tell anyone @EverydaySexism
— Lorg Mo Chearta (@BriMonroeCarter)December 13, 2012
— Chitra Nagarajan (@chitranagarajan)March 13, 2012
#ididnotreport because I thought I was overreacting – when being followed by groups of men and threatened with rape
— Vidyut (@Vidyut)June 18, 2013
This guy is great!!
And at seventeen, he gets it!
Writing to inform. Editing to improve.
Americans' daily coffee ritual.....
...The Final Journey From Fixation...
A town everyone hates, yet no one leaves...
la vita e bella
Burbuqe's blog- affirmations, quotes, short stories
If you want to be a hero well just follow me
Trigger Warning: Mentions of Rape/Sexual Assault.
humor. storytelling. general stupidity.
health, food/recipes, personal venting/writing, miscellaneous
Psychology to Motivate | Inspire | Uplift
Mental health. Self improvement. Life.
Live, Love, Inspire
One woman's story of survival
It's ok to be me
Surviving through Depression. "Specter" is the personification of my depression.
Sober living in a crazy world
The blog of a bad survivor
THERE IS NO HARM IN DOING YOUR BEST
How I Survived Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence
the unpopular celeb
Abuse is Abuse..No and Or But Or In-between
glimpses of life captured through the lens of the heart..
Healing from trauma
HELPING YOU TAKE THAT FIRST STEP
My thoughts about Depression, suicide and living
The musing of a country wife learning about farm life, homeschooling and honoring God in my new life.
Seeing God's wisdom shine through every circumstance
"We make bitter better."
Alexia Sambrano, editor, writer, intersectional feminist
questions concerns comments
Human Rights Advocate and Electronic Editorial Journalist :focus on issuesues of Women s Rights, Human Rights in Iran, Founder: Tenth Wall Defense of Baha'i s in Iran and #TenthWall
Jln Gereja Moria RT25 RW06 Kelurahan Liliba Kupang NTT
Read, Write and Heal
Inspiring and Heartwarming Stories