By: A Survivor Not a Victim
May 5, 2016
When I reported my rape, the detectives did not even question my rapist! While attempting to research what the reason is that they would not do that, I came across an article on Upworthy that poses these exact questions for a study that was conducted;
- Have you ever been in a situation where you tried, but for various reasons did not succeed, in having sexual intercourse with an adult by using or threatening to use physical force (twisting their arm, holding them down, etc.) if they did not cooperate?
- Have you ever had sexual intercourse with someone, even though they did not want to, because they were too intoxicated (on alcohol or drugs) to resist your sexual advances (e.g., removing their clothes)?
- Have you ever had sexual intercourse with an adult when they didn’t want to because you used or threatened to use physical force (twisting their arm; holding them down, etc.) if they didn’t cooperate?
- Have you ever had oral sex with an adult when they didn’t want to because you used or threatened to use physical force (twisting their arm; holding them down, etc.) if they didn’t cooperate?
When initially asked the group of men, all of them (of course) said that they had never raped anyone ever. But when phrased with those exact words above, 120 of them answered YES.
This is truly appalling to me! When in the hell are things going to change, and what makes people think that they have the right to do any of the things in the above-mentioned questions to someone else!?!?!
If you are interested in reading more about this topic, here is another article on the subject from Washington City Paper.
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