By: A Survivor Not a Victim
June 25, 2016
I have to admit that I have to find this hilarious because if I don’t, there is no way that I can cope.
My father and I have not had the best relationship in my life. The past few years, it has been better. He was struggling with family issues and taking care of my grandpa while he was sick until he passed away earlier this year. Through that struggle, I was there for him. I would usually call him a few times a week to check in to see how he was doing because I knew he was under a lot of stress.
Then I was raped. My grandpa died shortly after, and I have not heard from my father since. There has been a lot of drama in the family surrounding my grandpa, but all of that has nothing to do with my situation. On my birthday, which was recently, my father sent me a Facebook message saying happy birthday; he did even call me. My mom and brothers did. Then he had the audacity to get upset when I only sent him a Facebook message saying Happy Father’s Day. Since I have told him that I was raped, he has not once asked me how I am doing. I even confided something to him that I never once told anyone, and he accused me of being crazy like my brother’s ex-girlfriend (which I am not, and I told him this after I was raped ).
So, to all of you who do not have support from your loved ones, if they are not supporting you, they don’t love you. My mom, brothers, and friends (and even acquaintances ) have supported me more than my father. Just like me, you deserve more in your life than people like that.
A Survivor Not a Victim 