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Did You Know Ther Are Pro Rape Groups?

Today I was at work doing a bit of research about a protest that took place earlier this week in front of my office,  that led to protesters coming into the lobby of the office building and chaining themselves to our benches.  (This had nothing to do with rape )

But, while trying to gain insight as to why my building was targeted,  I saw an article  (that I didn’t click on at the time,  I waited till I got home to investigate ) about a pro rape rally from February.

Apparently,  there is a group called “The Return of the Kings ” they have a website,  and their leader is a pro rape blogger,  Roosh V.

In February this year,  2016,  Roosh V along with the Return of the Kings coordinated 165 events in 43 countries.

Now, all or most of these ended up being canceled because Roosh “could not insure the safety and privacy of his followers “. A hack group called  “We Are Anonymous ” publicly displayed his residential information on Facebook.

What do I think about that?  Good!! Considering what I have read about this dirt bag and what he has to say. Especially about trying to make rape legal on private property.

I went to the FB page of “We Are Anonymous “. Turns out  (actually they tweeted his info on twitter ) FB removed the post,  well, the connecting link.

This is my thoughts. …I feel that is a wrong move on FB. If this scumbag wants to do all this, and say what he is spewing,  then why can’t We Are Anonymous  put his info out there? Freedom of speech!  I say, this makes FB look like they condone rape and Roosh’s antics.

It makes me sick!

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Stigma Hurts

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I have never felt rape stigma so bad as I do now, trying to find a new roommate! I have been looking for a roommate since March 1st. It has not been an easy task. With the people that have ended up coming to see my apartment, and the people that I do like and could see myself living with, I keep running into the same issue for the most part. Not all cases, but 99% of them. They meet me, they like me, they like the place, the price, location, etc. Then they ask why the previous roommate left….What the hell am I supposed to say?!?!?!?! I am the honest type, I am not going to lie or deceive anyone no matter what the cost. images (6)

This is how it goes; Prospective – “Why did your roommate leave?” Me-  “He was removed by the court” Prospective – “Why? What did he do??” Me- Umm…. He raped me” Prospective – “crickets” — no they say, “I am so sorry, that is terrible…blah blah balhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!” Then I never hear from them again! Female, Male, Gay, Straight, Bi…it is all the same. What is this?!?! I don’t get it? Am I supposed to lie? I don’t think so! Are they passing judgement on me? Were they just playing me all along and pretending that they loved the place and wanted to fill out an application….wasting my time and theirs??? I am sensing a pattern, and I have learned the hard way to trust my gut, and my gut says that is directly has to do with telling these people that I was raped by my former roommate. Now what the hell am I supposed to do to overcome this? Not only do I need a new roommate asap….It has to be the right roommate for me, I am not letting anyone just move on up in here. images (4) I just feel so defeated, and I don’t  know. I have never been raped before…let alone by a roommate! I don’t know how to handle this, I don’t know how to proceed! I don’t know what or when to tell people, so I only tell when asked. So why are people so ridiculous when they find out that I have been raped? I have had roommates for years, many many years, and have never ever had a hard time finding replacements or new roommates. What gives? It’s like The havoc that this rapist has reaped on my life is endless and continues to grow every single day! When is it going to end! I mean sure, most things happen for a reason, so clearly none of these prospective people are for me in regards to roommates, but I am reaching the the end here. Rapist who is still on the lease will not pay, I am running out of time and resources to get someone in here. I am just at such a loss!

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The Frustration Continues

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The rapist that I formally lived with is still on my lease. I have had no luck so far in finding a new roommate (it must just be the time of year, as I have never had such a hard time before). I (we, but I got his too) have been served a 10 day notice to quit for the unpaid rent of the rapist for the month of April. March was taken care of by his last month’s rent that he gave upfront. He has stated to my landlord that “Since he is not living at the residence, he do not feel that he need’s to pay).

Well, that is not the way the law works! He is still responsible for rent, and so am I. Unfortunately, if the amount is not paid, the eviction process will start, and if evicted, that will effect us both. I want to stay here, so I am dammed if I do and dammed if I don’t. I have a flawless rental record that I do not want destroyed because of him, but I dimages (2)o not have the money to pay the entire rent. I plan on taking him to court to get all the money, this month and any other months that there might be with no one living here, but that is going to take time. I don’t know what I am going to do?! I also plan to take him to civil court for the rape. He should be held accountable for his actions, and I feel like I am never going to be able to move on until that happens, even if it isn’t criminal, at least it is something and I am not just sitting here letting him get away with rape. His actions are repulsive! Now I am under additional stress financially because of him. He says that this is not “fair” about having to pay rent. Well, it isn’t fair that he raped me. He signed the lease, he is on it until he is removed. Again, this is him avoiding responsibility for his actions. This is what all rapists do! It needs to stop! How know’s how many other women he has done this to, and if he isn’t stopped or deterred in some manner, who knows how many will be next?

I am so depressed, frustrated, and some days I feel like giving up. But then I remind myself that I can’t. I can’t for me, I can’t for his most likely past victims, and I really can’t for his potential future victims. I don’t believe that people who rape only do it once. Sure, maybe it has happened in a very few cases, but in general, these disgusting individuals are repeat offenders. And they are going to do it again. I mean, this disgusting excuse for a human groomed me all night! This was surely not his first offence.

I really hope things start to turn around soon. It is like he keeps coming out on top and I keep coming out on the bottom. Why does the rapist always seem to win?

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Getting The Short End Of The Stick Continues!!!!!!!!!

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This sucks!!!! Everything sucks, and the hit’s just keep on coming! I have been looking for a roommate for a month now to no avail. Today I received a text from my landlord saying that he has only received half of the rent for this month, and to please let him know by the end of the day when he can expect the rest.

Now, my landlord has been understanding, he knows the situation, and I know regardless, he needs to get paid, so that is not where this is going. The ASSHOLE who raped me is still on the lease, therefor, he is still legally responsible for rent until he is no longer on the lease. I had a conversation with my landlord, we both do not want to get the courts involved, but have decided that if that is necessary, then we will.

I then have been in touch with BARCC today, and will be early next week. So far, it is looking like my options are very limited, a no options are looking to solve the immediate problem at hand .ie: getting my landlord his money asap. Even if I take this scumbag to small claims court, that will take forever to “potentially” get money, and that is only if they decide that I am owed it.

I am so FUCKING ANGRY!!! THIS ASSHOLE HAS MADE MY LIFE A LIVING HELL, AND THE SHIT LIST CONTINUES TO PILE UP!!! IT ISN’T FAIR!!!!!!!!!!!

You know something,  is it fair that he is legally responsible for rent while he isn’t living here…wahhhh, cry me a river!  Is it fair that he stuck his dick inside a passed out person who already told him that she would never sleep with him?

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